If I had a dollar for every time I have seen someone use the word "sequence" to describe something sparkly attached to an item of clothing instead of SEQUINS, I would have enough to take to the bank and get a benjamin, for sure.
But on to the bigger thing....
Last week, I was browsing some social media and saw a link to an article on a magazine site about breastfeeding. Specifically, breastfeeding past 12 months of age. And I took the bait. I clicked on the comments. #why
Both of my children were EXCLUSIVELY breastfeed for the first six months of life. No formula. No solid foods. #nosleepformama It worked for us. I was staying home. My mother nursed me so I didn't have some weird stigma about it. I knew breastmilk was, by all accounts, superior to formula. And I could do it; so I did. And then we introduced food, but they still nursed. And Nolan was so unwillingly weaned when he was twenty months old because I wanted to get pregnant but wasn't having any luck because my prolactin levels were through the roof. I don't know how much longer he would have nursed. But I know, one day, just like that he would have stopped. Because that's what kids do. They stop nursing when they are ready.
Now, little girl is a different story. Allyn is three and a half. And guess what? She still nurses. Usually once a day. Maybe twice. While she was in the hospital for open heart surgery she didn't breastfeed one time. Not one. And I thought we were done. (Can I get an amen?) But when we got home the second night she asked to nurse. Fortunately, there was still milk to be had. And now she just nurses at night. And sometimes in the morning.
Moving back to that story with all of those comments.
So many people said breastfeeding past 12 months is unnatural or gross. Once your child can ask for food, he should be eating food and not at the boob. All of that breastfeeding hate made me stabby. I still nurse my daughter and my son nursed well past twelve months. And nothing about it was gross. It's not like at 12 months they suddenly passed some built-in requirement that they didn't need breastmilk anymore. And those times when they could ask for it and they would settle into your arms are by far some of the sweetest memories of my children.
What's crazy about nursing is that it can be discreetly. You never have to see a woman's breast. Most breastfeeding mom's don't want you do.
But then jerks go and make a big stink about people nursing in public. And honestly, that just pisses us off. News flash. We aren't going to stop nursing our kids. We know it's good and right. And the real extremists will stage a nurse in. And then everyone is up in arms.
Then the whole should you past 12 months? I say yes. If you want to. And if being a human milk factory isn't your jam past that first year of life, then stop. It's cool. People will chime in that if your child asked for chocolate cake, would you give it to him? So why nurse him when he is older when he asks; when he CAN ask? No I would not give my child cake every time he asked. (Probably just 70% of the time.) But here's the difference. Breastmilk is like a superpacked vitamin fortified totally organic (I think) tailored to your kid drink. I hear it's better than kale. Manmade foods are not. And let's be honest. Neither one of my kids is asking for a whole lot of veggies. So for as long as they are benefiting from breastfeeding and still want to, I will continue to nurse. Because one day they will stop. If you have a healthy breastfeeding relationship with your child, one day (one sad sad day) she will stop.
I have a very good friend who never nursed her baby. Like ever. So we are on opposite ends of the spectrum when it comes to breastfeeding. We didn't make the same choice for our babies, but we both did what was right for us. And we kept it a judgement free zone. Do I wish she would have tried nursing her son? YES. Because I know nutritionally breastmilk is better. Does she probably think I'm a little crazy for nursing a preschooler? Probably yes. Most people do. But we have never picked apart the decision that we each made. Our children are loved and thriving and healthy(ish).
So while I didn't comment on that thread, I did get my peace here. Nurse on mamas. Or don't. It's up to you.
And for the love of all things, everywhere...,.,IT'S SEQUINS!